A Little About Me
My journey has been long, sometimes I don’t even know where to begin. In a nutshell, we got married in 2001, had boy/girl twins in 2003, and I asked for a divorce in 2010. He chose a different path than I did and in the end, I couldn’t be the only one trying to keep us together. One day it finally clicked for me, our marriage counselor told me, “You can either live in a loveless marriage, or you can ask for a divorce”. From that moment, it took me two years to finally ask for a divorce. Deep down, he wanted it too. Perhaps he never had the courage to ask for it himself but I’ll never know. Our divorce took 4 years, lots of attorneys, lots of money and a full trial in front of a Supreme Court Justice. It was ugly, actually still is. I can’t control him or his rage towards me. I can’t control his anger or his hostility towards me. I can only control myself and what I do. I know how to protect myself. I know how to say no. I know when to fight and I know when to walk away. Having said all of that, I wish him nothing but peace. I hope that someday he can find it but that is his journey.
My kids….they are my life. They are who I fight for. They are who I protect. And I love them fiercely. Momma Bear is an understatement regarding how I feel about them. There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them. I’m a good mom and don’t need anyone’s validation letting me know I’m doing okay. They were seven years old when my X moved out. Now they’re thriving thirteen year olds. I have taught them to love fiercely, do the right thing and fight for what is right. They’re great kids and frankly, I proudly take credit on how amazing they are.
Who am I separate from my kids? I am funny, a photographer, a badass, foulmouthed, take no sh*t kind of woman. If you want my opinion, you’re going to get it so buckle up buttercup. I will never tell you divorce will be easy or that it’s “so much fun” being divorced. It’s hard. It’s lonely. And it’s scary at times. Having said that, I wouldn’t change my life one bit...not one second of it. It may sound weird but I know that I’m supposed to help others on this same ride. Your friends and family will always love and support you but they won't, maybe can't tellyou the truth that lies behind a divorce. I will always tell you the truth. Sugarcoating things and patting you on the head won't help anyone. It keeps you in your comfort zone. Stepping out of your comfort zone is where you will blossom into the person you are meant to be. And if that doesn’t work, a little kick in the pants never hurt anyone either!
As I said before, my journey has been a long one. Who am I kidding, it still is a journey. My decision to start this blog has been rattling around in my head for years. My mission is to give anyone going through this process, male or female, a little bit of hope that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It’s your job to realize that the light you search for, comes from within.
- Stacy Seeley | Founder & Client Advocate