You are stronger than you think you are, so be kinder to yourself. I wish someone had given me this advise early on in our divorce process. It took me years to grow into the role. I was so hard on myself in the early stages of the divorce. Am I being the best parent possible? Am I raising my children to be kind, compassionate human beings? Am I this? Am I that? The list can be endless. I think we all ask those questions to ourselves whether we're married or not. As a single parent, you don't have someone to tell you, "Hey, you're doing a great job." So, at times, we sit in self doubt. I know I did. We look outside ourselves for validation when in reality, the only person we need to look at is ourselves. It's within YOU to tell yourself that you're doing a great job. Even when you don't believe, tell yourself those words.
I'm here to tell you, you will get through this because you are stronger than you think you are. There will come a day when you stop living in self doubt. You will stop, look in the mirror and tell yourself, "I'm a badass". It won't be words you say, you will believe it.
Divorce is tough. Being a single parent is tough. So...remember, be kinder to yourself. You ARE stronger than you think. In the days you don't feel strong, email me....I'll tell you you are strong and I'll tell you you're a badass.
Hugs to you.
I have a series coming up next month called "Letters To My X". If you'd like to write a letter to your X with words you wish you could say to him/her, please head over here and email me. You can write your letter anonymously. It is a cathartic experience as one person has already submitted her story to me. It's a beautiful letter and I can't wait to share it with you.