My daughter is funny.
She'll come out with things that make me wonder about her thoughts but then laugh out loud. She was talking about a friend and how this friend kept telling her how to act or what to say. When my daughter was telling me the story she said "You do you boo." When I asked her what it meant (hello, I'm not a teenager), she said it meant to mind your own business - you take care of yourself and I'll take care of me. Out of the mouth of babes. Or SnapChat...whatever.
It got me to thinking about my relationship with my X. If he does him and I do me, then everything should work out. Right? In a perfect world...yes, it would. My world, not so much. Regardless of how he tries to control me, I keep hearing my daughter's voice, "You do you boo.". For some reason, it calms me down. Water off a duck's back analogy. It's when we separate our feelings with what is coming at us, we realize they're only words, someone else's insecurities or baggage. We can choose to believe them or we can choose to say, "You do you boo". Then move on.
Hugs to you!